There is a saying that if you look for the bad in anything, you’ll find bad things; if you look for the best, then the best you shall find.
The first ten result of Google search indicates that the quote originated from Abraham Lincoln who said,“If you look for the bad in people expecting to find it, you surely will.” I personally don’t think it takes a president of United States to quote it for people to know that. It is common sense; focus on the bad things, that’s all you will see. This is why it is important for you to be positive. We all need to be positive.
The same goes when you’re dealing with people, with human beings. Be it peers, be it bosses, be it employees, be it mothers, fathers, daughter, sons, siblings, in laws, friends…whatever, if you keep on looking for the bad things from them that is all you will see. No matter how much good they have done, either to you or as a person in general, it does not matter, to you they are a bad person.
What you neglect to see is this: the way you perceive a person does not say much about that person. It reflects on the kind of person you are.
So, the next time you want to label a person as “bad” and start listing out all the bad things he has done, why don’t you stop and think, "what kind of a person does that make me?"
Judge yourself before you judge others.