So you say anything and everything to justify your madness so as to convey to that person how mad and frustrated you are.
You caused this; you should feel how I feel!
Little did you realize, those words you uttered in that splitting moment of anger causes deep scars that may or may not ever heal.
“Before you speak, listen. Before you write, think.” says William Arthur Ward.
Safe to say, that you should at least think or ‘sift’ your words.
Okay so you said it. Okay so the person backs down. Congratulations, you won the argument. What good do you get from this? One party satisfied. The other hurt.
Or worse, both end up hurting.
I remember Mama’s advice when dealing with the hurt caused by people’s words.
“Let it go. Yes, it hurts you. Yes it leaves scars. But in the end, just let it go. There is no use in letting the matter eats you up inside out. In the end, you are the one who’s going to suffer. Forgive the person. In turn, you’ll find peace with yourself. The hurt will still be there. But eventually, you will forget about it.”
That’s how you cope.
But what has been done cannot be undone.
To speak without thinking is to shoot without aiming.
Without any doubt, there will be collateral damage.
You might think that what you have spoken is nothing, but words can kill.