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Friday, July 5, 2013

What kind of a person are you?

There is a saying that if you look for the bad in anything, you’ll find bad things; if you look for the best, then the best you shall find.

The first ten result of Google search indicates that the quote originated from Abraham Lincoln who said,“If you look for the bad in people expecting to find it, you surely will.” I personally don’t think it takes a president of United States to quote it for people to know that. It is common sense; focus on the bad things, that’s all you will see. This is why it is important for you to be positive. We all need to be positive.

The same goes when you’re dealing with people, with human beings. Be it peers, be it bosses, be it employees, be it mothers, fathers, daughter, sons, siblings, in laws, friends…whatever, if you keep on looking for the bad things from them that is all you will see. No matter how much good they have done, either to you or as a person in general, it does not matter, to you they are a bad person.

What you neglect to see is this: the way you perceive a person does not say much about that person. It reflects on the kind of person you are.

So, the next time you want to label a person as “bad” and start listing out all the bad things he has done, why don’t you stop and think, "what kind of a person does that make me?"

Judge yourself before you judge others.

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

All Too Well...

"There's an old poem by Neruda that I've always been captiVated by, and one of the lines in it has stuck with me ever since the first time I read it. It says ''love is so short, forgetting is so long.'' It's a lIne I've related to in my saddest moments, when I needed to know someone else had felt that exacT same way. And when we're trying to move on, the moments we always go back to aren't the mundane ones. They Are the moments you saw sparks that weren't really there, felt stars aligning without having any proof, saw your future before it happened, and then saw it slip away without any warning. These are moments of newfound hope, extreme joy, intense passion, wishful thinking, and in some Cases, the unthinkable letdown.” – Taylor Swift

I believe everybody has, at one point in time, experienced love, being loved and lost. Even if it is just a brief encounter, even if it is just a mere crush; you feel. As soft as the feeling of a feather brushed to the skin, you feel.
And to have lost the emotion, is heartbreaking. Be it you, or that other person who has lost it, it’s devastating.
But to lose that person, even when the emotion is still there, is even worse.

Sometimes the bond that ties two people together becomes disentangled and got lost in time and transactions. Cruel world we are living in. But that is just how life goes.
And the time will come, if ever, that fate will bring these two people together again. It could be just in time, or could be too late.
And the feeling could remain as it is. Intense as ever or just a tingle tiny spark that brings warmth to your heart, it remains.

 “Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation”, Khalil Gibran said.
“…But you can never love people as much as you can miss them” - John Green.


Believe, that one day, all those teeny tiny puzzles that never make sense and probably never will...all those emotional roller coaster ride…all those intense moments and crazy split-second dreams…it will all fall into place.
And maybe that person is not the one who will eventually steal your heart away, maybe yes.
From that moment on, you’ll understand that life had taught you and invaluable lesson: learning how to feel…To love, and be loved.

prince charming does not always come with white horses. sometimes he's on foot. so expect him to be late. :p


Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Let's strive to be closer...

25 ways to be close to Allah SWT:

 1.  Put Allah first in your life.

 2.  Start off each day with 'adhkaar al-istiyqaadh' (waking up Supplications), thanking Allah for waking up in good shape.

 3.  Broaden your horizons - learn 5 new verses from the Quran every day, travel to pray far in the mosque to brighten your day, take up a booklet having supplications and read them.

 4.  Pray Salaat Al-dhuhaa (after sunrise).

 5.  If someone says something mean to you, just shrug it off and dismiss it in a friendly, laidback manner, and pray that Allah shall forgive them.

 6.  When you get angry, remember Allah, and how short and worthless life is to waste in being Angry.

 7.  Remember that you can never have too many friends, but you can have few quality friends that help you fulfill the purpose of your creation (i.e. live for Allah).

 8.  When you're happy, try to share your happiness with others. Thank Allah for that, and pray for its continuation.

 9.  When something bad or embarrassing happens to you, just think that it could always be worse, remember the reward of patience and thank Allah that it's not worse than it is.

 10. Do something extra good once in a while, like feeding a poor person, or caressing an orphan's head.

 11. Never stop believing that you can win Allah's love and thus work for it. Then you can win the love of Allah's slaves.

 12. Spend some time thinking of Allah's amazing creation.

 13. Always love those who love Allah unconditionally. This way you will ensure that you live for Him, love for Him, and hate for Him (those who are enemies of Him).

 14. Find the righteous ways to express yourself, and if you think that what you are about to say shall cause no benefit, maintain silence.

 15. Every now and then, give yourself a break. Play sports, give time to your family, friends, but always remember Allah and watches what you are doing.

 16. Pray for blessing to come to those being lost, and pray to Allah to guide them to the right path.

 17. Hug your parents, kiss their hands and heads and always obey but stop at Allah's orders.

 18. Smile to everyone, for your smile makes a big difference to him or her and you are rewarded.

 19. Forgive, forget and smile.

 20. Tears are not for women only... tears are for all human beings with feelings remaining in them. Don't restrain your tears when remembering Allah.

 21. When people criticize your actions and effort, revise your actions and see if they please Allah or no. If they do, then ignore and remember how the Prophet (SAAW) and the Sahaba were criticized, made fun of and even physically harmed, so have patience.

 22. Read the Quran daily and try to have a schedule for completing it as much as you could. As you open the Quran daily, read with observing not just passing your eyes through the words.

 23. Don't let popularity go to your head, for it never lasts and you may lose from it more than gain.

 24. Never look down on anybody, for, to Allah, they may be better than you.

 25. "Invite all to the way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; And consult with them in ways that are best and most gracious" (Al-Quran 16:125)


Tuesday, February 19, 2013


Hello there sleeping beauties!

It seems that everybody (by everybody I probably mean mostly, me) is always sleepy nowadays.
It could be that we are sleep and rest deprived; what’s with the demanding work/study hours, heavy thinking and of course, the never-ending playtime.

Let’s do the counting shall we?

If you are a working adult:
You need to be at work as early as 8.00am.
In order for you to clock in before 8.00 (to prove to your boss that you are a very punctual person..yeah right), you have to beat the messy morning traffic and of course, stop by the nasi lemak stall to tapau breakfast; which means you probably have to wake up as early as 6.00am (okay earlier for some but let’s put it in average).
To enable you to get enough sleep (read: 8 hours), you’ll have to call it a day at precisely 10.00pm.
Nobody sleeps like this. I am Nobody. *flips hair*

But wait! How is that going to be possible?
Work ends at 6 (averagely for most of us) and you will only reach home around 7pm.
7 to 10 is only a three-hour window for you to cramp dinner, gym time, dating, spending time with your parents and/or children, watch that favourite TV series of yours and so on…
That doesn’t include the times when you have to bring work home!
Ergo, you decide to sleep late.
So there you go; the answer as to why it is hard for you to wake up in the morning and why you feel sleepy throughout the next day.

Safe to say, the same applies for college students. The mountain of assignments adds up to the back-to-back classes, study sessions and revising for finals. Demanding as it is, I still say; that with semester break now and then, students have it a teeny bit easier. But still, sleep-wise, they are as deprived as the above-mentioned people.

So, ladies and gentlemen, I present to you, the power of napping. Yes you read me right, NAPPING!
Napping is a great way to compensate the sleeping hours “taken-away” from you during the night.

A nap is to sleep briefly especially during the day[1] or a short period of sleep, typically taken during daylight hours as an adjunct to the usual nocturnal sleep period. Naps are most often taken as a response to drowsiness during waking hours.[2] 

 Here are 25 reasons why you should nap[3]: 
  1. It makes you smarter

    According to Dr. Matthew Walker of the University of California, napping for as little as one hour resets your short-term memory and helps you learn facts more easily after you wake up.
  2. Abandon all-nighters

    Foregoing sleep by cramming all night reduces your ability to retain information by up to 40%. If you can, mix in a nap somewhere to refresh your hippocampus.
  3. It doesn't mean what you think

    If you know you have to pull an all-nighter, try a "prophylactic nap." It's a short nap in advance of expected sleep deprivation that will help you stay alert for up to 10 hours afterwards.
  4. You can't avoid that down period after lunch by not eating

    Human bodies naturally go through two phases of deep tiredness, one between 2-4 a.m. and between 1-3 p.m. Skipping lunch won't help this period of diminished alertness and coordination.
  5. Pick the right time

    After lunch in the early afternoon your body naturally gets tired. This is the best time to take a brief nap, as it's early enough to not mess with your nighttime sleep.
  6. Hour naps are great

    A 60-minute nap improves alertness for 10 hours, although with naps over 45 minutes you risk what's known as "sleep inertia," that groggy feeling that may last for half an hour or more.
  7. But short naps are best

    For healthy young adults, naps as short as 20, 10, or even 2 minutes can be all you need to get the mental benefits of sleep, without risking grogginess.
  8. Drink coffee first

    The way this works is you drink a cup of coffee right before taking your 20-minute or half-hour nap, which is precisely how long caffeine takes to kick in. That way when you wake up, you're not only refreshed, but ready to go.
  9. The NASA nap

    A little group called NASA discovered that just a 26-minute nap increases performance by 34% and alertness by 54%. Pilots take advantage of NASA naps while planes are on autopilot.
  10. Can't sleep? Don't stress

    Even if you can't fall asleep for a nap, just laying down and resting has benefits. Studies have found resting results in lowered blood pressure, which even some college kids have to worry about if they are genetically predisposed to high blood pressure.
  11. Napping may save your life

    A multi-year Greek study found napping at least three times per week for at least 30 minutes resulted in a 37% lower death rate due to heart problems.
  12. More nap benefits for the brain

    Not only will napping improve your alertness, it will also help your decision-making, creativity, and sensory perception.
  13. But wait, there's more

    Studies have found napping raises your stamina 11%, increases ability to stay asleep all night by 12%, and lowers the time required to fall asleep by 14%.
  14. The ultimate nap

    According to Dr. Sara Mednick, the best nap occurs when REM sleep is in proportion to slow-wave sleep. Use her patented Take A Nap Nap Wheel to calculate what time of day you can nap to the max.
  15. Fight the Freshman 15

    Research shows that women who sleep five hours at night are 32% more likely to experience major weight gain than those sleeping seven hours. A two-hour nap isn't feasible for many, but napping is a good way to make up for at least some lost night sleep. 
  1. If it was good enough for them…

    Presidents JFK and Bill Clinton used to nap every day to help ease the heavy burden of ruling the free world. Of course, they also had other relaxation methods, but we won't get into those.
  2. Do like the Romans do

    In ancient Rome, everyone, including children, retreated for a 2 or 3-hour nap after lunch. No doubt this is the reason the Roman empire lasted over 1,000 years.
  3. Don't wait too long

    The latest you want to wake up from a nap is five hours before bedtime, otherwise you risk not being able to fall asleep at night.
  4. Sugar is not a good substitute for a nap

    When we are tired, we instinctively reach for foods with a high glycemic index, but after the initial energy wears off, we're left more tired than we were before.
  5. It's a good way to catch up

    If it takes you less than five minutes to fall asleep at night, you are sleep deprived. If you never can seem to get to bed earlier at night, a mid-day nap is a great way to catch up on sleep.
  6. Underclassmen need more sleep

    Freshmen and sophomores who are still in your teens: you need up to 10 hours of sleep to feel rested. So odds are, you are sleep-deprived.
  7. You'll have to leave the party sooner

    After one school-week of not getting enough sleep, three alcoholic drinks will affect you the same way six would when you are fully rested.
  8. Don't drive drowsy

    Don't be afraid to take advantage of an "emergency nap" on the side of the road in your car. Every year, as many as 100,000 traffic fatalities are caused by sleepy people behind the wheel.
  9. The Einstein Method

    If you are concerned about sleeping too long, do what Albert Einstein regularly did: hold a pencil while you're drifting off, so when you fall asleep, the pencil dropping will wake you up. (We do not guarantee you will wake up with a 180 IQ.)
  10. Missing sleep is worse at your age

    For people ages 18 to 24, sleep deprivation impairs performance more significantly than in other age brackets.

Now, how long is a good nap?
Ririan[4], a health guru from Los Angeles said that a good nap can range from a mere 10 seconds to a whopping 90 minutes[5] (although I’d consider 90 minutes as an actual sleeping session rather than napping).

So what are you waiting for, let’s nap now!
(But please watch out for your boss first. To have your superior sneaking up on you while your saliva is flooding up your desk is not a good sight. At all.)


[1] http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/nap
[2] wikipedia
[3] www.onlinecollegecourses.com/2012/02/12/25-napping-facts-every-college-student-should-know/
[4] http://ririanproject.com
[5] http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/05/10-benefits-of-power-napping-and-how-to-do-it/

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Think before you throw.

Have you ever feel so angry or frustrated all you want to do is hurt the person causing all the fury?
So you say anything and everything to justify your madness so as to convey to that person how mad and frustrated you are.
You caused this; you should feel how I feel!

Little did you realize, those words you uttered in that splitting moment of anger causes deep scars that may or may not ever heal.

“Before you speak, listen. Before you write, think.” says William Arthur Ward.
Safe to say, that you should at least think or ‘sift’ your words.

Okay so you said it. Okay so the person backs down. Congratulations, you won the argument. What good do you get from this? One party satisfied. The other hurt.
Or worse, both end up hurting.

I remember Mama’s advice when dealing with the hurt caused by people’s words.
“Let it go. Yes, it hurts you. Yes it leaves scars. But in the end, just let it go. There is no use in letting the matter eats you up inside out. In the end, you are the one who’s going to suffer. Forgive the person. In turn, you’ll find peace with yourself. The hurt will still be there. But eventually, you will forget about it.”

That’s how you cope.

But what has been done cannot be undone.

To speak without thinking is to shoot without aiming.
Without any doubt, there will be collateral damage.
You might think that what you have spoken is nothing, but words can kill.

Thursday, February 7, 2013

CPR done, now let's watch the vital sign.

Goodness gracious me!
Look at how time flies.

Okay, fast..but not that fast.

I has been almost a year (well, short one month of a year) since the last entry.
Truth be told, although I have no intention to discontinue blogging, I also have no desire to  keep it alive.

Not until I realised how fun it is to write.
Not until I realised how it benefits my writing skill...which seems to be diminishing slowly, it's sad.

I'll try (see the word try? it's a bad word. bad.)
I will do my best to keep it alive.